Ep 1: Does Size Matter- Is Bigger Always BETTER?

Most men think that size matters when it comes to the penis….but do their partners really care about size during sex? Is bigger always BETTER?

On our very first episode of #AskTheSexpert we are busting infamous myth about SIZE!

Watch Sexpert Dr. Sandip Deshpande converse with host Artika Singh as he explains how and why the size does NOT matter.

Don’t miss out the audience questions answered at the end of this episode!

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April 10 . 13 min

Guest bio

Dr. Sandip Deshpande is the Medical Lead at Allo Health and an accomplished psychiatrist and sexual and relationship therapist. Here he shares with us his encounters with folks who have been troubled by the question of "size" and how he tackles this concern. Dr. Deshpande is an MBBS, MD in Psychiatry, and DPM in Psychiatry from KMC Manipal and has extensive experience as a former consultant psychiatrist at the NHS in the UK. He is also a member of the Royal College of Psychiatrists in London and has a PGDip in Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapy from Sheffield. Fluent in English, Kannada, and Hindi languages he has contributed to many academic and medical journals. Fluent in English, Kannada, and Hindi languages he has contributed to many academic and medical journals.

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Few highlights from the podcast

"sex is not something that happens between the legs or between the thighs. It's something that starts between the ears, which is from the brain, the master organ. So pleasure has several components to it. There is the component which starts from the mind, the desire."
-Dr. Sandip Deshpande, Medical Lead, Allo Health

Viewer’s QnA from the podcast

Q: What is the ideal penis size?
There is nothing called ideal. It's a range for an adult man on erection, it is anywhere between 4 to 6 inches.
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Q: My penis is not very big. How should I satisfy my wife?
So you need to stop worrying about the size of the penis. Rewind and listen back to all the discussions we had so far.
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Q: I feel ashamed of having sex or getting naked in front of another person because I think my penis is not the right size. What can I do?
if it is in the average range, I wouldn't want this person to worry about. Of course, awareness about one's own body or concerns about self-image do matter. Yes. What we do tell an individual or a couple such as this particular one, is to go in a phased manner or a staggered manner . So perhaps they could get intimate with curtains drawn with lights off, maybe taking only their outer clothing off, keeping their inner wear on. As they get comfortable, they can look at maybe getting off, you know, removing their brief and then slowly progressing to being without clothes.So that's the phased approach.
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Topic + Sexpert Intro: So today morning, I found the top three most searched questions when it comes to sex. If you're wondering why I was searching that, let me take this opportunity to welcome you to our new show. Allo #AskTheSexpert a space where we invite sexual health and wellness experts to talk about sex, pleasure, health, and so much more so that you can have Better Sex, Backed by Science. I'm Artika. And today I'm joined by sexpert Dr. Sandip who is a medical lead with Allo Health and a leading psychiatrist and sexual wellness therapist with over 17 years of experience in India and the UK. Welcome, Sir, Thank you so much for joining us today. Thank you. Thank you for hosting me here, Artika. So, like I was talking about the most searched questions about sex. Do you want to take a guess at what what the topmost question is? It sounds interesting. I get a lot of questions from men about how to last longer. Women ask a lot about pain during sex. Then. Then there are a lot of questions about masturbation. Penis size, must be one of those. Well, yeah. It's on the list for sure. It's the more searched question that we're going to be talking about today is when it comes to the penis, does size matter? There we go. So I think just as a starting point, that is the question, does size matter? Does Size Matter? When it comes to the penis? Can it be too big or too small? Well, well, there's a huge industry out there trying to misguide men into believing that they have to have a certain size. I'm here to disappoint a lot of people because size truly does not matter. There is an average size. Average Size of the Penis & Micropenis? There are lots of studies which have looked at sizes across the globe. So in one particular study for India, it says an erect penis is somewhere between 4 to 6 inches long. There is an entity called the micropenis. Micropenis would be less than three inches on erection. So if a man is able to measure his penis from the base of the penis, which is where the pubic hair is, to the tip of the penis on erection, and if it is under three inches, we call it as micropenis. Otherwise, an average size penis could vary anywhere from 4 to 6 inches on erection. Alright. That's a new word that I learned today. So if I just ask about that, when we talk about micropenis, what are the implications of having a micropenis? Um, again, there are scientific studies which looked at men who came and said that they have a micropenis now thanks to Dr. Google, people are reading, they're going to specialists. In fact, a large majority of those men also did not have a micropenis. Oh, okay. So if it's a true micro penis, they ought to go and see a urologist who will first confirm the diagnosis and then talk about treatment options. Can Penis Size Be Increased? Penile Lengthening! When I said in the beginning about disappointing, the industry out there talks about lotions, potions, pills and what not. In fact, I was surprised to read about some weights that are sold on the Internet. Men are supposed to hang them by the skin of the penis. The hope is that the penis will suddenly become longer. Yes, but none of those work, sadly. Yeah. For micropenis. Since you asked, a urologist might be able to talk about penile lengthening, which is typically done by removing a little bit of a pad of fat near the pubic area. But these are surgeries that have to be carefully thought through, discussed, and then, you know, the doctor is the best person to advise. Yeah, absolutely. I think recommended by a doctor is. Yes. The main thought that one should focus on in this case. Yes. You know, just talking about what you
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