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Ep13: Can A Relationship Without Sex Last? | Sexless Relationships

Does a great sex life mean a great relationship? Do men & women perceive sex the same way? Can a relationship without SEX last?

Intimacy is a part of every healthy relationship but there are cases where some relations lack it.
What happens to such equations? How important is Sex when it comes to a lasting relationship?

All such questions and more!
On this episode of #AskTheSexpert, watch Dr. Sandip converse with host Artika about intimacy and sex in relationships and the balance between sex & understanding in a relationship.

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June 5 . 13 min

Guest bio

Dr. Sandip Deshpande is the Medical Lead at Allo Health and an accomplished psychiatrist and sexual and relationship therapist. Here he talks about relationships without any physical intimacy and whether it is a concerning situation to be in. Dr. Deshpande is an MBBS, MD in Psychiatry, and DPM in Psychiatry from KMC Manipal and has extensive experience as a former consultant psychiatrist at the NHS in the UK. He is also a member of the Royal College of Psychiatrists in London and has a PGDip in Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapy from Sheffield. Fluent in English, Kannada, and Hindi languages he has contributed to many academic and medical journals.

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Topics covered

00:00

Sexpert + Topic Intro

01:03

Importance Of Sex In A Relationship

02:13

Does Great Sex = A Great Relationship?

04:15

Sexual Intimacy Experienced By Different Genders

05:10

Not Feeling Intimate With Your Partner? Here's Why

06:37

Factors Affecting Intimacy

07:41

Is Sexual Intimacy A Sexual Concern?

09:03

Can sexless relationships survive?

09:41

Ask Your Question- Sexpert Answers YOUR Questions!

Few highlights from the podcast

"Early in the relationship, whether it is a romantic relationship or post marriage, in an arranged marriage scenario, the first 1 to 2 years, we call them as the honeymoon period. Sexual intimacy tends to be ~in the air~. They just have to look at each other, maybe signal or start some intimacy, which leads to something, you know, a lot more. But later on in a settled relationship, the good relationship certainly takes precedence."

- Dr. Sandip Deshpande, Medical Lead, Allo Health

Viewer’s QnA from the podcast

Q: I've been married for six years and we haven't had sex till now. We have tried to, but not been able to. What can we do?

I'm not sure about the gender of this person, but whether it's a man or a woman asking this question, I would say that they should both go to an expert in terms of first getting an evaluation done, and they can be sure if they come to Allo that they will be treated with a lot of dignity, not put into any kind of, you know, uncomfortable situation asking those questions. Only when we know what is the cause. Like the detective work I was talking about earlier, we will be able to help a couple like this. So they should see somebody.

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Q: I don't feel like having sex, but I'm scared that my girlfriend will cheat on me. What can I do?

We do get a lot of people who are insecure about aspects like these. It's good that this person has come up and asked this question. What I would encourage them to do is to have an open discussion with their partner. Tell her about what the issues that are concerning him, and perhaps he needs to take some professional help.

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Q: Is there a particular number of times I need to have sex if I'm married.

They

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Read transcript

Sexpert + Topic Intro You know in India, it's considered that if you are in a relationship, especially a marriage, you must be having a lot of sex. So don't be surprised if I tell you that there are so many marriages and relationships in India that are

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