Patient Story 27: From Struggles to Solutions, A Man’s Journey to Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

Bharat, a 32-year-old man from Delhi, faced significant challenges with weaker erections and early ejaculation, which was deeply affecting his sexual intimacy with his partner and their overall sex life. Their intimate moments were often short and quick, leaving both partners unhappy and dissatisfied. This issue strained their emotional connection, causing difficulty and frustration for both of them. Bharat was also struggling with his smoking and regular alcohol consumption, which further worsened their physical and emotional bond and happiness. It became clear that resolving these problems was essential for a healthier and happier relationship. This story will reveal how Bharat started his journey toward wellness, finding comprehensive care that transformed his life and restored their happiness.

Finding the Issue

Bharat had been married since 2019, but he was in a relationship in 2017. Since he got married, he had been experiencing premature ejaculation, typically lasting about 1-2 minutes, though with protection, it extended to 3-4 minutes. His situation worsened when he also noticed a decrease in his sexual desire. Bharat stopped masturbating right after his marriage and was initially living a full life, but problems began to occur soon after tying the knot. He felt a lack of arousal towards his wife, and over the last 6-8 months, his issues led to unsatisfactory sexual encounters due to his low sexual desire and quick ejaculations.

Unlike many in their mid-30s or 40s, Bharat faced premature ejaculation, low sexual desire, and performance anxiety. These problems are common at this age and can be caused by everyday stress, societal expectations, and relationship dynamics, affecting even younger adults. His complications were impacting his self-esteem and creating a shadow over his marital life, leading to emotional and mental stress.

Bharat had never reached for professional help for his sexual issues before due to embarrassment and societal stigma. He had tried various herbal remedies he found online, but none proved effective. Realizing he needed professional assistance, he decided to seek help from an expert.

Moreover, Bharat had a habit of chain smoking and consuming alcohol, which he struggled to control. He also had a history of quick masturbation, and currently, he masturbates once a week. His wife complained about the emotional distance he maintained from her. The ongoing issues with premature ejaculation and low arousal were frustrating for both Bharat and his wife, prompting him to seek professional help.

Getting Professional Help

Upon realizing he needed professional assistance, Bharat stumbled upon Allo Health while scrolling through Instagram reels one weekday night after dinner. He was captivated by some videos that resonated deeply with his own experiences. Intrigued, Bharat conducted further research on Google about Allo Health. Convinced by what he found, he decided to approach the clinic directly, opting for a walk-in appointment at Allo Health Gurgaon, Delhi clinic, where he was scheduled to meet Dr. Ashish Bansal.

In June 2023, during Bharat’s first consultation with Dr. Ashish, the doctor thoroughly assessed his condition. Bharat was dealing with premature ejaculation and low sexual desire, compounded by anxiety about his performance in bed and a lack of intimacy with his wife.

Reflecting on the session, Bharat shared, “Dr. Ashish truly understood what I was going through. His empathy and expertise helped me realize that I was overly focused on timing instead of enjoying the moment.” Dr. Ashish reassured him with kindness, stating, “Premature ejaculation and lack of sexual desire are common issues and can be treated easily. Early ejaculation is not a sign of weakness; many men face this concern, and you are not alone.” Encouraged by these words, Bharat left the clinic and started feeling hopeful about improving his intimate life.

Uncovering the Main Cause: Diagnosis and Realization

At Allo Health, Bharat collaborated with Dr. Ashish to identify the root causes of his premature ejaculation issues. Dr. Ashish determined that Bharat’s problems were primarily due to mental and financial stress, as well as the expectations from his marriage concerning their chemistry and bonding. Although Bharat and his partner had a good relationship, their differing perspectives on family property discussions contributed to the stress, which was very mild and not of concern. Additionally, Bharat’s irregular lifestyle, working in a renowned company with rotational shifts, further exacerbated his condition. His habits of chain smoking and alcohol consumption also negatively impacted his physical health and sexual function.

Reflecting on his journey, Bharat shared, “I never knew how much my smoking, drinking, and mental health were hurting my sexual health. Dr. Ashish showed me how my body, mind, and sexual performance are all connected.”

Dr. Ashish identified several key factors affecting Bharat’s health: psychological stress, alcohol consumption, and smoking. Stress, in particular, was considered a vital contributing factor, significantly impacting his sexual function. Understanding the interplay between stress, drinking, smoking, and sexual health was essential for Dr. Ashish to develop an effective treatment plan. Recognizing these factors was a crucial step for Bharat towards recovery and improving his overall well-being.

There might be questions about whether Bharat’s habits of masturbation played a part in his premature ejaculation. It’s important to note that while excessive or compulsive masturbation can sometimes lead to sexual problems, it’s not always the case. Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of human sexuality. Bharat’s premature ejaculation was likely caused by a combination of psychological and biological factors, not just his habits of masturbation. Understanding this holistic perspective was crucial in addressing Bharat’s condition comprehensively.

Path to treatment

Bharat started on his journey to tackle premature ejaculation (PE) with a comprehensive treatment plan. This plan included a combination of medicines such as nutritional supplements, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) for treating anxiety or mental health disorders, Phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5) inhibitors to help manage blood flow in the reproductive organ, and Vitamin D capsules to address low vitamin D levels. These capsules increase the amount of calcium your body can absorb, which benefits overall health.

Alongside these medications, Bharat made dietary modifications and adopted a healthy lifestyle. These elements were designed to work synergistically to help him control his timing during intimate moments. The combination of these treatments aimed to provide a comprehensive approach to managing his condition, potentially enhancing their effectiveness in addressing issues like premature ejaculation.

The doctor took the time to reassure Bharat that these pills had minimal side effects and were not addictive. This was done to alleviate any concerns Bharat might have had about taking the medication. Bharat’s treatment plan was comprehensive and designed to address multiple aspects of his premature ejaculation:

• Pelvic Floor Exercises: Pelvic floor exercises strengthen the muscles that support ejaculation and orgasm. Regular practice can enhance control over these functions, leading to improved sexual performance. These exercises are simple and can be done discreetly at any time.
• Manage Anxiety and Stress: Stress and anxiety can interfere with sexual performance, often leading to premature ejaculation. It’s crucial to focus on the pleasurable aspects of intimacy rather than the performance. Techniques such as deep breathing and mindfulness can help reduce anxiety.
• Use Thick or Long-Lasting Condoms: Thick or long-lasting condoms can help reduce sensitivity, thereby delaying ejaculation. They provide a simple and effective method to enhance sexual endurance. This can improve overall satisfaction for both partners.
• Prioritize Foreplay: Engaging in hard foreplay for at least 5-10 minutes helps build intimacy and arousal, creating a more relaxed and pleasurable experience. It allows both partners to feel more connected and ready for intercourse. Rushing can increase anxiety and reduce satisfaction.
• Ensure Adequate Sleep: Adequate sleep is essential for overall health and can significantly impact sexual performance. Getting 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep can improve testosterone levels and erectile function. Prioritizing rest can lead to more satisfying sexual experiences.
• Communicate with Your Partner: Open communication with your partner about sexual concerns can reduce performance anxiety. Understanding and support from your partner can alleviate stress and improve intimacy. This collaborative approach strengthens the relationship and enhances sexual satisfaction.
• Stay Present During Intimacy: Staying present and focusing on the moment during intimacy can enhance the experience. Worrying about erections can create a mental block, leading to performance issues. Relaxing and enjoying the moment helps improve erectile function and overall pleasure.
• Maintain a Healthy Diet: A balanced diet rich in essential nutrients supports overall health and sexual function. Foods that improve blood flow, like those rich in vitamins and antioxidants, can enhance erectile function. Maintaining a healthy diet contributes to better energy and stamina.
• Seek Specialist Evaluation: Some sexual health issues may require specialist evaluation and treatment. Conditions like erectile dysfunction (ED) can have underlying medical causes that need professional attention. Consulting with specialists at Allo Health can provide tailored solutions and effective treatments.
• Engage in Physical Activities: Regular physical activity, such as walking or running for at least 30 minutes daily, can improve cardiovascular health. This enhances blood flow, which is vital for erectile function. Staying active also boosts overall energy levels and well-being.

Ms. Devishi Mittal has been appointed for Bharat’s counseling session, She heard him patiently and understood everything. She even pointed out “ Being anxious or stressed could sometimes cause early ejaculation, it is important to relax and focus on enjoying the pleasure and not the performance. She even suggested “To stay present during the intimacy and not to worry about erections, relaxing the mind helps with better erections” and also suggested therapies and techniques:

Aerobic Exercise (20-30 min/day) and Kegel Exercise: Engaging in daily aerobic exercise for 20-30 minutes boosts cardiovascular health and enhances stamina, which is beneficial for sexual performance. Additionally, Kegel exercises strengthen pelvic floor muscles, improving control and intensity of sexual experiences.

Discussing Likes and Dislikes: Open communication about your sexual preferences and boundaries fosters mutual understanding and intimacy, making sexual encounters more satisfying and enjoyable for both partners. This practice helps build trust and ensures that both partners feel comfortable and respected.

Experimenting with Sex Toys and Fantasies: Introducing sex toys and exploring fantasies can add excitement and variety to your sexual routine, helping to keep the relationship vibrant and engaging. This willingness to experiment can deepen your connection and increase sexual satisfaction.

Managing Work and Financial Stress: Reducing stress from work, financial issues, and daily hassles can positively impact your libido and overall sexual health. By addressing these stressors, you create a more relaxed and conducive environment for intimacy and sexual desire.

Seeking Couple Counseling: Couple counseling provides a supportive space to address and resolve sexual and relational issues, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship. Professional guidance can help couples communicate better and develop strategies to enhance their sexual connection.

The Road to Recovery

Bharat decided to buy his medicines directly from Allo Health because it was more affordable and convenient. He appreciated the discreet delivery to his home and the helpful reminders that ensured he never missed a dose. These reminders are crucial for maintaining a consistent medication schedule, especially for long-term treatments or medications with specific timing requirements.

Allo Health also provided reminders for scheduling follow-up appointments and addressed any issues that could hinder his treatment. Bharat began his treatment with Allo Health in June 2023, and over the next six months, he diligently followed his medication regimen and adhered to the advice given by Dr. Ashish. He attended all follow-up and counseling sessions as recommended. Initially, Bharat struggled with premature ejaculation, lasting only 1-2 minutes, but his condition improved significantly, and he could now last almost 10 minutes.

Before each doctor’s visit, Bharat filled out a progress form, which helped Dr. Ashish determine the next steps in his treatment. At his first appointment in June 2023, Dr. Ashish diagnosed Bharat with premature ejaculation and prescribed medication, counseling sessions, and lifestyle changes. By his first follow-up in July 2023, Bharat’s control had improved, allowing him to last 4-5 minutes. Dr. Ashish adjusted his treatment by continuing the same medication dosage and removing the vitamins.

By the second follow-up in August 2023, Bharat’s condition had further improved, with his ejaculation lasting up to 10 minutes. He continued to receive the same medication. During the third and fourth follow-ups in September and October 2023, Bharat’s condition remained stable with ongoing improvements. He followed Dr. Ashish’s advice on lifestyle and diet changes, which contributed to his progress.

By his final follow-up in December 2024, Bharat had fully recovered. He had gained much better control over his ejaculation, and his overall sexual health and marital life had greatly improved. Bharat’s commitment to his treatment plan and the support from Allo Health ensured his successful recovery.

Conclusion

Bharat’s story highlights the critical importance of seeking help for sexual health issues. His journey underscores the value of a comprehensive approach, which includes medical treatment, psychological counseling, and lifestyle changes. By diligently following professional advice and actively participating in his therapy sessions, Bharat experienced a significant improvement in both his sexual well-being and overall quality of life.

If you’re facing similar challenges, remember that seeking help is a courageous and essential step. Bharat’s experience demonstrates that sexual health issues are common and treatable. Taking action can lead to profound positive changes in your life. Your health matters, and addressing these issues can enhance your relationships and overall happiness.