It’s not uncommon for people to experience difficulty achieving orgasm during sex, even if they can easily orgasm when masturbating. This happens to many individuals and can be due to several reasons.
First, the mental and emotional state during sex versus masturbation can be very different. During masturbation, you might feel more relaxed and in control, knowing exactly what you like and how to achieve it. In contrast, during sex, there might be added pressure to perform, worries about your partner’s satisfaction, or general anxiety. All these factors can make it harder to relax and enjoy the experience, which is crucial for reaching orgasm.
Another reason could be physical differences in stimulation. The way you stimulate yourself during masturbation might be different from how you are stimulated during sex. For example, the angle, pressure, and rhythm might not be the same. Communicating with your partner about what feels good for you and experimenting with different techniques and positions can help.
Additionally, it’s essential to remember that sexual pleasure and orgasm are complex and influenced by both physical and psychological factors. Ensuring that you feel comfortable, safe, and connected with your partner can enhance your sexual experience. Sometimes, exploring and understanding your body better, and even guiding your partner, can make a significant difference.
Achieving orgasm during sex can be challenging due to differences in mental state and physical stimulation compared to masturbation. Communicating with your partner and exploring what feels good can help.